私じゃない私たちです

(We, not I)

Some part of me thought they were just pestering me, another part thought they were being overly sensitive, another part of me genuinely wondered if I had truly grown to be uninterested in subjects of family and community everytime my aunt reminded me I hadn't checked on my grandmother or godmother in weeks if not months but as being secluded gradually became more and more enjoyable and being around people whether online or in person became more of a drag than I remember it being before the pandemic, I started to realise that it wasn't that my aunts were being overly dramatic...

It was and has always been common sense that there's no journey a man can take successfully on his own and if no one helped, he would end up dead, maybe not literally but there is no self without the connections, they are part of what make up a person; their family, their bonds, their connections.

It wasn't until I recently saw the screenshot of a concerned father to his daughter that I realised this wasn't just about me but thousands of other young people who had forgotten how to truly connect with another person, how to look beyond "I" and see "we", how to check on people first instead of telling yourself it's useless and makes no difference. The Irony of the information age; that we have more means of connecting than ever in history but at becoming more and more disconnected. Seclusion has become the norm when our Social instincts was part of the key players in our evolution as a race but now more than ever, Division.

"I’m white, You’re black, we have nothing in common."

“I’m Young, they are old, we have nothing to talk about."

"I'm Black American, You're full African, I'm smarter than you."

"I'm tall, you're short."

"I'm rich, you're broke."

"You can't understand me you're not going through what I'm going through"

Even I struggle with this in my own house, and as a household we do the same with our environment just ask anyone who's tried to visit me.

As a result, I too don't have an answer but I have a question

If being together was the cause of our tremendous growth did our connection as humans pay the price?, what do we expect to come from anger, separation and disconnection? Has long years without adversity caused us to begin to fight ourselves? If so, could a pandemic be a blessing in disguise?

what point is there in talking about a person that evolves everyday?